“We had verbal agreement… now it’s radio silence.”
Sound familiar? You’re not alone. During periods of economic uncertainty, even strong buying signals can vanish overnight. Buyers suddenly become hesitant, delay decisions, or hide behind committees.
So, what’s really going on?
Let’s go beyond surface objections and look at what’s happening psychologically when your prospect pulls back. The answer lies in a time-tested framework called Transactional Analysis (TA)—and it’s a tool every high-performing sales rep should master.
The Three Ego States Driving Every Buying Decision
Transactional Analysis, developed by psychiatrist Eric Berne, explains that we all operate from three internal “voices” or ego states:
Parent – Carries learned rules and judgments (“Don’t waste money,” “You must be careful”).
Child – Holds emotions, desires, and fears (“I want this,” “I’m scared”).
Adult – Processes facts, analyzes risk, and weighs decisions rationally.
Sandler Training founder David Sandler recognized this dynamic and used it to create a selling system rooted in psychology. The key insight? People buy emotionally (Child) and justify intellectually (Parent and Adult).
Why the Inner Child Gets Buried During a Downturn
In good times, the Child ego state—the one that wants, dreams, and feels—is often the loudest. But during economic instability?
🔺 The Critical Parent voice takes over:
“Don’t act without approval.”
“Stick with what you know.”
“Play it safe.”
🔺 The Adult becomes cautious and analytical, stuck in “wait and see” mode due to a lack of clarity.
🔻 The Child gets silenced, buried beneath fear, rules, and over-analysis. And with it goes the emotional spark that drives action.
Sales Psychology: Why Emotional Pain Matters
Great sellers know that in uncertain markets, logic won’t open the door—emotion will. That’s why the Sandler Selling System begins with the Pain Step.
Instead of pushing a pitch, start by uncovering real, emotional pain points:
“What’s not working?”
“What happens if this continues?”
“Who else is impacted by this?”
The goal is to resurface the Child—to create space where the buyer can say, “I want this problem solved.”
Lead with Emotion. Follow with Logic.
Once the Child acknowledges a painful problem, then (and only then) is it time for the other ego states to enter:
The Adult: “What’s the data? What’s the ROI?”
The Parent: “Does this align with our values and policies?”
That’s why Sandler’s Budget and Decision Steps are critical follow-ups to the Pain conversation. They provide structure for the Parent and Adult to sign off—without losing the emotional momentum that started with the Child.
How to Break Through Groupthink and Avoid Decision Delays
Economic uncertainty breeds committees and indecision. Everyone wants backup. You can overcome this by appealing to all three ego states:
✅ Child – Keep the pain visible. What happens if nothing changes?
✅ Adult – Provide clear roles, timelines, and next steps.
✅ Parent – Show how your solution aligns with what’s “safe,” proven, or endorsed.
The Real Role of a Trusted Sales Guide
Sales isn’t about persuading. It’s about navigating the inner tug-of-war within your buyer. To move deals forward, you must:
✔ Start with the Child to uncover emotional pain
✔ Engage the Parent to validate decision safety
✔ Equip the Adult to rationalize the path forward
That’s how top sellers thrive—even in uncertain markets.
Want to Master Selling in a Shifting Economy?
Start by learning how to spot and speak to your buyer’s emotional drivers. That means asking the right discovery questions, starting with pain, and earning your role as a trusted guide—not just a vendor.
📞 Schedule a stress-free conversation with a me to uncover how you can lead your team through turbulent times with confidence.
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